How to get enough motivation to stick to changing and creating habits we all wish for but somehow have not been able to create until now
Recently I came across an introduction to the book “ The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg and one paragraph in particular caught my attention:
“First, there is a cue, a trigger that tells your brain to go into automatic mode and which habit to use. Then there is the routine, which can be physical or mental or emotional. Finally, there is a reward, which helps your brain figure out if this particular loop is worth remembering for the future. Over time, this loop…becomes more and more automatic. The cue and reward become intertwined until a powerful sense of anticipation and craving emerges.”
I have found this to be true. I have been able to develop a few habits in this fashion. But I have never actually been aware of it – until now that I see it described in this way. I find it enormously helpful and motivating to continue to develop more good habits. One at a time. For example – my struggle to get enough sleep, drink enough water which is causing real difficulty to concentrate and have a clear mind. At first I have to force myself to go to sleep at a regular time. Putting the phone away! Clean up the mental clutter and just be grateful that the day is over. I find it such a blessing to be able to sleep through the night and be refreshed in the morning.
Drink the right amount of water. I know how important it is. I experience the difference right away. BUT it takes a lot of focus and energy for me to keep up with it. Same with stretching exercises. Going to sleep – why is that so difficult??? Again now I have motivation and confidence to tackle these habits.
Just imagine how much more we can accomplish each day, if we can put more tasks on autopilot and do these tasks effortlessly. It will not only free up more time but also energy. I have not been happy with my daily progress at all and always wondered how other people can do so much more in the same amount of time. – And what’s more they seem to be able to do that effortlessly. WOW – now I know how I can get closer to this point myself.
The most crucial point for me is – by developing habits like this I no longer have to worry about being in the right frame of mind, being inspired, etc.- I am now confident that I can actually accomplish what I set out to do. Until now I thought, I just did not have enough discipline. For me this was the missing link.