Last week was a tough week — There is so much to worry about; COVID 19 — our President got infected with the Virus. Upcoming elections — it used to be that the American people would vote for eight years democrat the next eight years republican with exceptions, of course. This kept everything in balance. But it has changed dramatically in the last 20 years. Elections have become acrimonious, and one begins to wonder if we are still living in a democracy.
Everyone is born with the desire to be happy. However, so many experience the opposite and have no idea where and how to find that source of happiness.
My husband and I are retired now and live in a relatively safe place in Santiago, Dominican Republic. We don’t have to worry about our lives.
However, every time I walk by the pictures of our young grandchildren, my chest tightens, and I cannot help but wonder what kind of life they will have? Hopefully, they will grow up in a relatively peaceful world.
Changes are happening rapidly. How can anyone keep up with these changes?
It is more important than ever to get rooted or anchored in something permanent, while life pushes us around. No one can escape that. How can we make sure that our children, grandchildren will develop the strength, confidence, and resilience to navigate life successfully?
Eventually, we will get past this worldwide pandemic. I am sure that positive things are coming from this crisis too. That always happens even though it is hard to imagine during such a challenging time. Is there a way to create a life that we can enjoy even in the midst of all these difficulties?
YES — it is possible! It is important to realize that the source of peace, love, beauty, goodness is not out there but inside in each of us. We just need to learn how to access this inner well.
This is what I want to talk about here. Most of us spend lots of time taking care of ourselves externally, our appearance, home, etc., but are not accustomed to doing mental housekeeping. If we get into the habit, for example, to intentionally feel grateful even for the smallest things, we will cleanse our minds. Some time ago, I read in one of my books the phrase “bring joy.” Don’t look for joy but bring, create joy! Yes, that is possible. We can make our surroundings conducive to enjoyment! We need to keep consuming the news to a minimum. I have become very selective in what I read, watch esp on Social Media. I don’t completely cut it off, but create boundaries and criteria of “What, why, where, when, etc. — doing that is very refreshing! I select the source of any information very carefully. I am happy to say that I have finally succeeded in forming some great habits and finally enjoying life. This is different from the idea to retreat, cutting ourselves off from the world — but instead establish healthy boundaries that allow us to live our life to the fullest, even in this challenging environment.
When our mind is clear, we can see solutions, opportunities we would not see otherwise.
Once we get on this positive mental trajectory, we will encounter so many good things, valuable pieces of information, ideas, and, most of all, finding ourselves to be a source of hope and encouragement to others.
A few years ago, I went through a difficult period in my life — I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel. It was horrible to have to live with that state of mind. Then I found a new way of life. My circumstances have not changed but gotten worse due to the COVID pandemic. I do have difficult days, of course, but I can now get back to my safe place in my mind very quickly.
Here are the determining factors to ensure such an amazing life:
- Become aware — conscious of my attitude towards whatever issue may arise. Adjust my attitude as needed. — I call this mental housekeeping. A right attitude does not cost anything, and it makes a world of difference in the quality of our life.
- Keep our environment as clean as possible. How much, for what purpose do I watch a movie or show, listen to videos, or read books and articles? I am shocked by how often something I read or watch does not provide pleasure or purpose and is only a distraction and causes agitation, worry, and so on. Now I can very quickly stop and look for something better. And there is a lot of great stuff on the internet once we have more clarity and know what to look for!
- Know, observe, what are the things that make us truly happy? For me, it is — that I, at the end of the day, have accomplished what I set out to do. It may not be much — but fulfilling promises to myself and others give me satisfaction. I have learned to pace myself and make realistic plans. If I try to accomplish too much and cannot do it, it will cause unnecessary stress and conflict.
- Stay focused — once you decide on what is most important and keep working towards this goal, you will encounter many sources that provide you with the tools when you need them.
We are finding ourselves in unchartered waters. I am confident that in a few years, when we look back, we will see how we have come together as a worldwide community. We will have discovered that some significant changes which benefit humanity will have taken place. In the meantime, we all have to do our best to remain calm and do our best. NEVER lose hope!
I recommend reading the book “A path appears,” — which has an excellent chapter on HOPE — the title of the chapter is “A boy named Kennedy”
Maria De La Rosa